When we gossip, speak ill of others, or judge them, we feel insecure.
It's something that stayed with me from my childhood—I experienced it from a young age in my environment, and it caused me a lot of pain and insecurity to see it, hear it, and listen to it.
I felt that if people could talk about others like that, what would they say about me? I never understood why people were so focused on external things, on what others had, what others did, and so little on themselves.
There are two sides to this issue.
Many people look at others because they themselves feel insecure; internally, they feel less than and disconnected, and they need to look outward to avoid feeling that inner pain. But at the same time, they project that pain onto others through their judgment. What they dislike or don't accept in others is something they carry within themselves in some way.
Then they become more interested in everything external so they don't have to truly deal with themselves. So they don't have to look inward and take responsibility for their pain, anguish, feelings of worthlessness, anger, hopelessness, etc.
On the other hand, if we are children and grow up surrounded by people with very limited awareness and unhealed wounds, who are constantly judging, then it's possible that the child will internalize that judgment and, instead of accepting themselves, feel so limited that they can't express who they truly are.
As parents or guardians of these children, we have to be more than all of this. We must break with gossip, with looking outward to criticize others without taking responsibility for the wounds we carry within.
As parents, we want to give Love, but real, unconditional Love, the Love that nourishes, Love with Respect.
I imagine a world where people are nourished by that Love, a healthy Love, without imbalances, without the need to limit, but rather an expansive love that allows the freedom of Being.
Where when we speak about someone, we speak positively to help and support them.
To achieve this, each of us must nurture our self-love and self-respect. We must heal inner pain and transcend inherited wounds, transforming limiting legacies to expand and live in inner freedom.
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